If I was very drunk or flirting a lot, is it my fault that I was raped, because I was giving mixed signals?

01st Aug 23

No. Rape or sexual violence of any kind is never ever the victim’s or survivor’s fault. 100% of the responsibility lies with the rapist(s) or perpetrator(s). They had a duty to make sure you had fully consented – that means that you wanted and were happy with – anything sexual they did to you, because sexual activity without consent is sexual violence. Consent to sex can’t be implied or assumed; it’s a fully and freely given, enthusiastic ‘yes’ and nothing less. If you were very drunk, you might not have even been able to give your consent. There’s no excuse for rape or sexual violence. Whatever the circumstances, it wasn’t your fault.